Golf and the Single Grrl

I wanted to give a quick shout-out to Zandria’s blog on BlogHer. I am woefully behind on all my blogs, podcasts, RSS feeds and the like… it definitely takes discipline to scan through them every day. I know I need to set up a page where all the feeds, blogs, etc. “go” – but I haven’t quite gotten around to figuring out how to do that (Hi Sallie – yes, I know, you can’t believe it. I will. I swear.)

Today I was catching up on Zandria’s blog, and one of her comments was on being Single, and “doing something you’re not so good at/trying something new.” I wrote about this in my book, and she has a great perspective.  

When I was single, I did sort of a “regression analysis” (hey, I’m an attorney, so sue me) on the best places to “meet guys.” I had been bashed by relationship and was “older” then (late 30s) and really liked being “in relationship” so I wanted to figure out how to get back into one without doing something insane like hitting the bar/dance club scene. What it came down to was basically NASCAR and golf as being super man-rich “environments.”

I went to NASCAR with a grrlfriend and – yikes, boring beyond ALL boredom (if you’re a NASCAR fan I apologize), and SO LOUD.  But golf, even though I am AWFUL at it, was a GREAT thing. You can just go out and hit balls at a driving range, take some beginner classes (they’re always dead cheap — they try to ‘reel you in’), go to Play It Again Sports and get a golf set for not that much… and you really DO NOT have to be good.  There is a golf course in EVERY country (even Madagascar), and going and playing there you will ALWAYS meet guys, and it’s fun. The pro shop will have clubs for you to borrow.  If you decide to be a little more “interesting,” you can get a vintage putter for example, and just bring that -that’s the club that folks will comment on. (I have one from Scotland that was made from the rudder of the Queen Mary.)

Remember – I am TERRIBLE at golf.  But so long as you don’t hold the rest of your 4-some up (just pick the ball up, and tell them you owe them a beer… they’ll love you), it’s a GREAT place to meet guys, and you can tell their actual personality right off, too. (A guy I was kinda interested in threw his CLUB when he was upset at a shot he made and it BROKE – a handmade graphite club – NO THANKS. Step a-waaaaaaaaay from the Crazy Man…)

There are also groups just for women (e.g., EWC – Executive Women’s golfing Club) nationwide, where you get together with other professional women, usually on like a Tuesday or Wednesday after work, play a round and then have a glass of wine and laugh. It’s a fantastic networking thing, too.

Remember tho – it’s a game…. 🙂

 S

PS:  My husband doesn’t play golf (figures, huh?) and so I’m a little out of practice now, but it’s on my “list” to get back to. It was such a great way to meet people and it’s good exercise too, if you don’t ride a cart.

BONUS VIDEO PODCAST: The Bond Girl and the Bartender Take On The Kentucky Derby (90MB)

Yup – we’re at it again – Mr. Martini from BehindTheBarShow.com and I cooked up some vodcasts for your viewing entertainment.

This first one is in celebration of the Kentucky Derby, which will be running on May 3rd. First, I give some tips on horse racing and betting, then Mr. M. shows us how to make a mint julep. And just in case you want to expand the recipe to cover 30 of your best friends who you’re now going to invite to a Derby Party on Saturday, we also discuss how to make the mint julep party-style!

Watch out for more vodcasts coming to you soon – Mr. Martini and I have been having a ball learning about this new medium, and as you can see, we just love to hang out together!

Let me know what you think – either give me a ring on my Listener Feedback line 206.350.3537, leave a Comment here, or email to sandy[at]beabondgirl[dot]com.

Podcast 10: Feng Shui and Energy Re-Alignment In Your Home

In Episode 4 we discussed Feng Shui as a method for ordering your life and how your life can be diagnosed as being out of balance using Feng Shui techniques. In this Episode Sandy runs through the mechanics for doing a Feng Shui clearing and energy realignment on your home. These two podcasts expand upon the topic of decluttering that she discussed in her first View From The Bay (ABC) episode last month, and the topic of using Feng Shui as an ordering method for your physical surroundings, to be discussed in View From The Bay (ABC) on May 5th. (The San Francisco Bay Area lead-in show to Oprah.)

Bagua floor plan


Click here for a printable Bagua map (from www.wsfs.com).

I know it’s difficult to “imagine” the bagua square just from my talking about it, so this should help.

If you have comments on this episode, please call the Listener Comment Voicemail at +1 (206) 350-3537, e-mail sandy [at] beabondgirl[dot] com or leave a comment below.

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BONUS HYPNOTHERAPY PODCAST: Susan Bird (2 of 3)

In this podcast I am extremely honored to offer you another full induction from Master Hypnotherapist Susan Bird. The second of three full inductions, this session expands on the mythological reference of a Woman as a Lake. It builds from the clearing and cleansing you did in the first induction and utilizes your past as a springboard for your future, ultimately giving birth to your Manifestation Tree.

If you have comments on this episode, please do call tHypnotherapist Susan BirdHypnotherapist Susan Birdhe Listener Comment Voicemail at +1 (206) 350-3537, e-mail doubleohsandy [at] yahoo [dot] com or leave a comment below.

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Hypnotherapy Episodes – Duh…

SO.  This weekend, I edited, matched podsafe music to, etc. etc. the 3 hypnotherapy episodes that Susan Bird wrote particularly for you as a member of my audience.

 Susan is a fan of my book (and one of my personal experts), and came up with the idea of doing the inductions to introduce a wider range of people to hypnotherapy. We got together to work on the actual “visuals” for the inductions, then she wrote them, and came up to my studio to record them. Then, I fixed’em up.

I was working on them quite a bit this weekend — pretty much both days. Sue had done a number of versions of each induction, so I had to listen through to each intro, body, end, etc. — and then pick the ones that seemed to work the best for me. So – duh – this means I listened to hypnosis inductions for about 16 hours, give or take, over the past couple says.

I am LOOPY today. I feel very calm, comfortable, but… um… let’s just say I really should not be “using heavy machinery.” I actually drove to meet a client at a coffee shop this morning, and drove right past the exit with a little drifting “ah… yeah… um… that’s the exit… going by… going right on by…” feeling.

I’m back home now. Better stay off the road for a while!

BONUS HYPNOTHERAPY PODCAST: Susan Bird (1 of 3)

In this podcast I am extremely honored to offer you a full induction from Master Hypnotherapist Susan Bird. The first of three full inductions, this session uses the mythological reference of a Woman as a Lake to help you clear and cleanse your life to become fully present and ready to accept your best life going forward.

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If you have comments on this episode, please do call tHypnotherapist Susan BirdHypnotherapist Susan Birdhe Listener Comment Voicemail at +1 (206) 350-3537, e-mail doubleohsandy [at] yahoo [dot] com or leave a comment below.

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Potlach – Encouraging Generosity

I received some information the other day from the DailyOM that I’d like to share with you. I think it goes very well with my Decluttering and Green podcasts.

The article described the Native American tradition of the “potlatch.” It is a tradition that values generosity above all else.  A potlatch, which is a very grand ceremony, is an exercise in giving away material possessions, food, and money.

Apparently, it is not uncommon for the host of a potlatch to give away so much of their own resources to guests that the host ends up with nothing. However, the host can regain this wealth by attending potlatches as a guest.

 In this way, a potlatch validates generosity and encourages the flow of resources in a community, while at the same time continually reaffirming the importance of community ties.

This paragraph really made me sit up and take notice, because it reminds me of what I learned from “John Jr.” in my car ride with him, as detailed in Podcast 9 on “Living Green”:

“When we are held in a web of trust and connection, we can give generously, knowing that when it is our turn we will be supported. In this way, our whole sense of ownership becomes less individualistic and more communal. Resources are in an acceptable state of flux, moving within the community through the vehicle of the potlatch, which serves the additional function of strengthening community ties. This seems clearly preferable to isolating ourselves from one another and hoarding our resources.”

Isn’t it time to create a community in which a flow of resources happens in this way, in which we support one another to be generous?

The “Give Away Girls’ Nights” listed in my book is an example of a potlach – having fun, and giving away an object that is dear to us. By doing this, perhaps we can inspire someone there to throw their own potlatch. And so on, and so on – by starting this out, trusting, and loving, perhaps we could find ourselves with a tradition that supports and validates generosity even as it creates a safety net for leaner times.

Don’t just think about it – do it.

More on Send Out Cards and Multi-Level Marketing (MLM) in General

Hey You!

 I had a link to my Send Out Cards website in a previous blog. I know that a couple of you checked it out – hey, it’s a free couple cards you can send On Me, so why not have at it!

I have been in a few MLM (Multi-Level Marketing) companies in my day. It’s usually pretty frustrating, frankly. I would wind up paying the $100 or so over being a Wholesale Customer (it’s never a lot) to have the ability to “build a team” in the MLM.  (But usually, I was joining because I loved using the product, and believed it could benefit others.) Being a “Distributor” allowed me to benefit from not only someone buying the product from me, but also if they wanted to sell the product, too.

Unfortunately, usually I wasn’t all that keen ‘splainin’ (Lucy) to folks how they could sell essential oils and vitamins, or face cream, or vibrators (yes!) and make themselves a business of it. It was a LOT of work going to folks’ houses, doing demos, and the like. Sure – I loved it, but I’m a natural ham and salesperson. Most folks would buy the products, but NO WAY would they want to schlepp lubricant and dildos around from house to house themselves…

The idea of MLM is that you make money when other people (that you have brought into the system) make money. But the whole “Ra-Ra” aspect, meetings, etc. just was not Me.

Anyway – a while back, I was introduced to the concept of Send Out Cards by a gal I know through networking groups. Then, I heard about it again, in a podcast that I listen to pretty often. So I decided to check it out.

I was pretty sure that the cards would be cheesy or flimsy, or they would go out with a postal “mark” not a stamp, or the promise of “uploading my handwriting” would be just so much hoo-ha.  Nope!  I have been SO SURPRISED!.

This company is the real deal. The cards are great.  They’re just like Hallmark cards (maybe even better). The whole system really does sell itself. You can store business or personal folks in the system, and then set up “Campaigns” to your clients (you know, like we’re all taught… “touch every client at least once every 3 weeks…”). Birthdays. Anniversaries. Spouses’ Birthdays. Kids’ Birthdays.  The calendar even pops up with “what’s up” for that week, when you log in.  If it’s a birthday and you click on it, you get a link to the birthday cards! It even stores a picture of every card you send and what you said in it attached to the “Rolodex card” for that person, so you never again have to wonder what you sent, when, and what you said!

You can even insert photos into the cards – and they REALLY look good, too. Heck, you can make your own “trifold” with photos in it and description! I just did one for a friend, where the front was her dancing at my wedding – the inside fold was her about 8 months pregnant – and the inside-inside was one of her son’s photos that she recently sent all of us on email (he just turned one).  This card cost me something like 40-60 cents to do (yes, with glossy, the photos, etc.) and 41 cents to mail. When she called me, she said that she hadn’t even printed out any of her son’s photos – so now she has my card of the photo that she took (the inside of the trifold) up on her fridge!!! 

In my other MLMs, there were usually meetings in person (that were always a pain to get to, and usually over some limp pizza). Ra Ra Ra, sell more vibrators! Ra Ra Ra! In this one, there are calls that you can call into (or not) once a week, that last for 1/2 hour. Afterwards, you get a transcript of the call (if you want to read it) and you can click on it to listen to it on a website, too. No fuss, no muss.

The transcript below is from my “upline” Jordan Adler . He is legendary – he wrote a book called “Beach Money” on MLM. This call was last night. I don’t think I could have said it better — so I will let him say it.  Again — if you’d like to try out the system — just click above or, of course, you can email me and we can walk through the “finer points” of it together. 

++++TRANSCRIPT OF CALL WITH JORDAN ADLER APRIL 14, 2008++++

SENDOUTCARDS IN PERSPECTIVE

What makes SendOutCards unique?
SendOutCards is like no other program in the Network Marketing Profession for two main reasons:
1. SendOutCards satisfies the greatest human craving . . . the need to love and be loved. Did you know that babies will die if they don’t get love as an infant? We carry that need throughout our whole lives. We feed the greatest human need. . . The need to love and be loved.
2. SendOutCards is the greatest personal development program in existence today. Not only do we have training that teaches people how to attract success, but we have an active system that will allow people to actually create the success that most other programs only talk about. Those of you that have been sending unexpected cards out each day know exactly what we are talking about

OUR TRACK RECORD – SUCCESS IN THE NUMBERS

SOC Revenues:

2004 – $250,000 2000 Distributors
2005 – $2.5 Million 4000 Distributors
2006 – $10 Million 18,000 Distributors
2007 – $24 Million 40,000 Distributors
2008 (projected) – $50 Million 100,000 Distributors

We are still a small Network Marketing Company. A big Network Marketing Company will do over 1 Billion Dollars per year and will have over 2 million Distributors in the US alone. It typically takes a healthy company 8 to 10 years to reach this point. We are starting our 5th year as a Network Marketing Company. The top earners typically will JOIN a company in its 4th-10th years. Can you imagine if one of them join your organization in the next few years? This can only happen if you are actively working your business.

A SIMPLE APPROACH

Many network marketing companies are built on a foundation of hype and fear of loss. I know this because each day I get calls from excited distributors that have been told by their uplines that they need to recruit ‘Jordan Adler’. Do you know that I am unrecruitable?? Here’s what they say in their e-mails and phone calls to me:

“Get in now or you are going to miss out!”
“We have by far the best program in the industry . . . you need to leave your company and join us.  Everyone is coming over!”
“Our compensation plan blows all the others away!”
“We will put people under you if you get in to our group!”

These are statements made by overzealous distributors that are in a scarcity mindset. Many companies and distributors build this way. This is the approach that gives our profession a bad name.

Here’s typically what happens . . . with very little actual interest in the product or service, people get nervous and sign up because they are afraid they are going to miss out if they don’t sign up right away. They get on an autoship and when their upline doesn’t fulfill on their promises by putting people underneath them OR when they realize that it’s not that they won the lottery (and they actually have to do some work), they drop the autoship and then everyone’s income goes down. At this point, people begin to lose their belief and they either quit our profession altogether and badmouth network marketing OR they look for the next manic opportunity.

Most of the time, implied in this is that somehow the company or the compensation plan is responsible for someone’s success (or lack of it) in the business.

In reality, there are many great companies and in most companies with a viable product and plan, anyone that puts in the work can make money and create a residual income. It has very little to do with the company. Yet some present it as if its the company and the comp plan that will determine someone’s success.

By the way, there are professionals in all companies. Usually they are the ones that have been around for a while and have built solid self-sustaining organizations. They are focused on great long term relationships vs hype and get rich quick approaches.

How are we different?
We believe in an abundant universe vs one with limited resources. We don’t need to hype anyone into joining us by promising them they will get rich overnight. In fact, those making the most money with us focus on how our service will enhance the life of another human being.

When I started with SOC, I had no interest in making any money. In fact, I was so excited about the service that I just started using it to send out thank you cards and thinking of you cards. My phone started ringing. I showed others how it worked, by having them send a card. A few were interested. I signed them up and taught them to do exactly the same thing. I started to imagine hundreds or thousands of people signing up just because it was such a cool service that everyone needed. My few people started to introduce it in exactly the same way.

We did no opportunity meetings. We did no online video presentations, we did no compensation plan trainings, we did no recruiting conference calls.

We simply show others the system by having them try it out (we coach them through sending a card) . . . if they like it, we show them how they can sign up and get $120 each time they train someone else to do the same thing. It’s that simple. Over and over again.

It doesn’t matter if someone is involved in another opportunity. In fact, that’s even better, because they have a great reason to use us to build better relationships, retain their customers and get more referrals. We don’t EVER try and get someone to stop what they are doing because we have a better deal.

There are many great opportunities in the marketplace!

We believe that you get back what you send out. If you send out positives on a daily basis, you’ll get back positives many times over. You reap what you sow. If you send out to give, the universe gives back!

Marketing is sending out to get.  Appreciation is sending out to give.

We believe that appreciation wins over self promotion every time. Think about it . . . when you get something in the mail that has a ‘sales offer’ like ‘20% off your next tire rotation’, where does it usually end up? That’s right . . . in the trash.

When you get something in the mail that has a photo of some people that you know thanking you and telling you that you are appreciated, where does it end up? Usually on your desk or on your refrigerator door. As soon as you put a logo on it, it’s more likely to end up in the trash.

What’s the real opportunity here?

The greeting card industry is a 7.5 billion dollar industry and it has been flat for years. Hallmark and American Greetings have spent millions of dollars trying to get it to grow. Nothing has worked. The average customer spends about $3 per month on cards. What’s the usual process?

1. They think of someone
2. They go to the store
3. They burn an hour  & pick out a card (or not!)
5. They don’t have a stamp or a pen
6. The card gets put on the counter
7. 2 months later, the card gets put in a drawer and never gets sent

In SendOutCards, the average user spends about $49 per month on cards that are 1/5th the price. Why? Because we make it easy and inexpensive to send cards conveniently right from your desk. Our customers send cards every day! Think of someone . . . send a card. Think of someone . . . send a card. Can you see that by making it easier, we could turn a 7.5 billion dollar industry in to a 10 or 20 billion dollar industry?

Do you realize that we are only doing about 30 million dollars per year and we could build a billion dollar company just on the cards that DON’T GET SENT by Hallmark or American Greetings!!
So why is there no competition??
You would think after 5 years, we would have a few competitors. Well American Greetings and Hallmark both tried what we are doing and spent millions of dollars on advertising doing it. After a few years, American Greetings shut down their internet card (like us) division. Their cards were over $3 each, but you could send them through the mail just like us. The problem was, they couldn’t get anyone to use them!

Kody figured out that the only people that typically sign up with us are people that have sent a card because someone coached them through it (hint, hint).
Here’s the reason I believe we have no competitors. A few guys hear that there is this company called SendOutCards that’s doing well and growing like crazy . . . .they think, “Hey, there has to be some money in that!” [give to get] “We pick up a few machines, set up operations, come up with an even better plan and we’ll start taking people from them!” [Focus on scarcity]

So they go into the boardroom and figure out that it’s going to cost about 2 million dollars just to start up, and then they can’t figure out how we are making money at .62 per card! They figure that it will take them years to break even, so they throw in the towel. “Give to get” will never work for long term success.

IN SUMMARY

When I joined the company, we were doing about 200 cards per day on one small xerox machine. Cards were being stuffed into envelopes by hand (Jodi – Kody’s wife was doing this). Today almost everything is automated and we are typically doing about 30,000 cards per day. I envision 2-3 million distributors doing 1-3 million cards per day in the next few years.

The operation today is 40,000 square feet with 60 employees. We have 3 – $600,000 I-Gen Machines (there is only one other company in the world that has 3 and they are in Japan). It’s like Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory!

We have a unique culture that stems from Kody’s vision to make millions of people senders of cards. We understand the impact that we can have on the lives of those around us simply by expressing our appreciation in cards sent out on a daily basis. One card has the potential to change someone’s life. Millions of people sending out one heartfelt, unexpected card each day has the potential to change the world. When we have 300 people at a Treat ‘Em Right Seminar, each write a card, and then just a few of them read their cards, you can feel the energy shift in the room. This is something each of you must experience for yourself. This energy expanded out to millions of people has the potential to shift a generation and eventually move mountains.

If You Use iTunes… Please Re-Subscribe!

Sorry about this, folks…but we had to move the podcasts over to a new server, and the only finicky feed seems to be iTunes. If you are using iTunes, you’ll unfortunately need to unsubscribe, go back to the iTunes Store, and re-subscribe, then click on “Get All” because it seems as if the past 6 or so shows have gone into iTunes Ether.

Thanks All!